If, like me, you've ever tried to explain to an ‘outsider’ how our fandom friendships work, you'll know that few people truly understand. Well, practically nobody. How do you explain that your friends are real friends even if they live in a different continent and you only see them once a year (if you’re lucky)? The overwhelming perception from colleagues and ‘civilians’ is that if you can’t physically hang out on a regular basis, those people cannot possibly be real friends. Every fan knows that this is simply wrong. And I mean all fans - w hether it’s our band or not, whether it’s a cult TV show or a fantasy book series, we all inhabit similar worlds, with similar rules and similar conventions. The other Frequently Asked Question is ‘do you and your friends just talk about [insert fandom here] all day?’ How do you reply to that, other than in the standard, sarcastic way - “sure, what else would we have to talk about?” . The truth is that, once someon